Jealousy is an emotion and typically refers to the negative thoughts and feelings of insecurity, fear and anxiety of the anticipated loss of something the person values, particularly in reference to a human connection. I remember as a young girl, I would find it "cute" when a boy I may have been seeing would anger if a guy looked at me too long, spoke to me too long or got too close. I would laugh with my girls saying "Girl he crazy". Upon becoming an adult and noticing this characteristic in some men I came across, I no longer found it to be funny and that cheerful "Girl he crazy" soon became a "GIRL THIS N*GGA CRAZY!!" So what changed?? Shouldn't your action of showing you're afraid to lose your partner make them feel special?? Help them to understand your depth of love for them?? I've found jealousy to be a double edged sword. Yes we all want someone who's afraid of losing us, someone who has no problem letting it be known that we belong to them. But as I've gotten older, it's become an unnecessary extremity. It's as if some people think you never lived before getting with them. I've had situations where an ex would flip out for me hugging and conversing with someone of the opposite sex that I had known prior to my relationship. I mean this guy was saying "you standing there smiling with this n*gga and sh*t right in my face!"(Mind you I properly introduced them) *insert multiple faces of confusion here* It's a very delicate thing to manage and decide whether it's worth dealing with or not...
Maturity, Growth, Trust and Security are all characteristics that push JEALOUSY out of the way of a loving relationship. There's plenty of men along with women in prison because they were never able to fully embody any of those characteristics. I must tell you this, if a woman makes a man feel secure and he fully trust her then there isn't a man in this world that can ruffle his feathers when that man/men speak to or hug his woman.I really would like to hear from the readers on this topic....
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