Sco{ I just re posted a quote by an author "Prose The Writer" on Facebook on selfishness that sparked interest from many... basically stating "I sit and I wonder, do selfish people actually know that they are selfish or is it like having halitosis, where they are so bad, they can't sense it in themselves?" I have sat and wondered this same thing many days and nights as I have been affected by this from family and friends alike. As a child my mom would say " you are too free hearted, one day you'll feel taken advantage of because of your kind heart. Brutha, do things from the heart and never let anyone take advantage." Of course I didn't listen and have been taken advantage of before. It happens once and never happens from the same person ever again(Gemini Ish).
Selfishness is like a disease, the person that possess it has to be told that they are that way. I don't believe they are aware even after being told however... denial. Such experiences include being under paid or not even paid for services, this makes the warmest of hearts grow cold. So at some point you steer clear of those that exhibit selfish behavior. These same people appear ungrateful and soon grow to be lonely as well. It's a domino effect. They learn to only look out for themselves and forever remain that way. Only engaging when it benefits them in some way. One day many years ago, my man Rsonist said to me "This is how I see it, Just as Lauryn Hill put it... Do it from the heart or don't do it. The moment you pay me $5 for my services instead of $50,000 I have lost all respect. I might as well do it for free and keep my dignity." Then there's selfless... the enjoyment of helping others. You still are getting something out of a situation. Is giving really better than receiving? I found an interesting video that compares the two.
Sone{ I believe selfishness stems from being spoiled(beyond childhood years). If you've never had to work and struggle for anything,you grow up expecting.Those who are selfish also learn the ways of manipulation. They have mastered what to say and do to get whatever it is they may want from others. Some are so good at this that the person being taken advantage of doesn't even notice. A lot of the time, feelings can play a big part. If you love a person,you truly only want the best for them. And coming from a woman's standpoint we tend put the feelings of others before ourselves. We're naturally nurturers(most of us) so we always want to make everything better. We can foolishly want to prove a point of being "the one" so we give and give and give while accepting less and less.
Unfortunately Selfishness is a terrible disease. Selfless people who have been affected by the selfish usually stop being so caring and giving to others out of fear that they'll be "played" yet again. It can cause those pure and unexpecting hearts so much pain that they now no longer have a "heart". It's one of those terrible circles of life things that not too many can avoid or bounce back from 100%. Once your kind hearted ways has been taken advantage of, trust that you'll never truly be the same
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